Talk Before Building Fences

Poet Robert Frost famously wrote in 1914 that, good fences make good neighbors.

While its true that well-defined borders can help prevent tension, those very borders have been at the center of many neighborhood conflicts.

Consider:

Research and communicate

Its easy to see how the fence you want to keep your dog in your yard might offend a neighbor who has long appreciated wide-open views. After all, a fence affects your property as well as that of your neighbors. Even before you draw up plans for a fence, consult local zoning ordinances to see what is allowed and what isnt. Then, talk to adjacent property owners about what youre planning to build and what materials youd like to use. If youre thinking about chain link and youre living in a wrought-iron kind of neighborhood, its likely youre going to get some push back. Be truthful, respectfully listen to feedback and see if you can reach some sort of compromise.

In the ideal situation, you and your neighbors may be able to use this physical divider as a way to foster togetherness. Perhaps you can share building and maintenance costs or even work together to construct the fence.

If you anticipate your fence project will result in conflict -- or youre already in the midst of one -- the folks at Salem, OR-based Neighbor-to-Neighbor community mediation offer these tips for addressing the issue:

Talk

Direct conversation is more effective than sending a letter, throwing rocks or complaining to everyone else.

Choose a good time

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